Relationship between donors and recipients
| Donor number | Description of relationship | Assessment of relationship | Criticism in relationship | Prospects for relationship |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | We’ve been together for 11 years | Regard relationship as “very stable” | 1. Not possible to “talk over any problems with him” 2. He didn’t keep away from alcohol | Perhaps prospects of marriage |
| 2 | – | – | – | – |
| 3 | I live at home; the mother-son relationship is more pronounced with us than the mother-daughter relationship | “Contact is very strong” | – | Will remain a “very close relationship” |
| 4 | He has been in hospital for 6 months; “whenever he was in pain, I always got sick” | “We haven’t seen each other often” | – | I’d be closer to him if I donated |
| 5 | We give each other strength; “we can’t get along without each other” | “Our relationship is certainly close” | – | Relationship will be even closer after donation |
| 6 | Was shocked when I saw her, afraid she’s going to die | “Fabulous relationship” | – | “Don’t have to go shopping alone” |
| 7 | Married for 35 years now | We have had “a very good marriage” | – | – |
| 8 | Live 25 km apart, talk on the phone every day | “Contact is actually very good” | – | – |
| 9 | Seen him three times in recent weeks | “He likes me to be around him” | Earlier, “often sudden rages,” but positive change since he has been dry | Want to have a good relationship to father |
| 10 | “We don’t live far apart; I see parents twice a week” | “My ties to my mother are actually very strong” | “Have quarrels now and then” | Maybe fewer quarrels |
| 11 | – | “Very good relationship” to son | – | – |
| 12 | Close inner relationship to son | “He is a part, that belongs to me and my family” | – | Maybe he’ll be grateful to me |
| 13 | “Have led a fine family life” | “Very good marriage” | – | Grow old together |
| 14 | Relationship has changed since tumour diagnosed | “We’ve never been a couple that was always ‘close together’” | 1. “Always had to go on vacation alone” 2. “Had to take far more consideration” | Go bicycling or hiking together again |
| 15 | – | – | – | – |
| 16 | Live a couple 100 km away | “No close inner relationship” | “Don’t have that much contact” | Maybe relationship will grow a little more intimate |
| 17 | “Always have the feeling she has something against me” | “Relationship not good” | 1. “Never know when she’s telling the truth” 2. “Not pleased when I come for a visit” | – |
| 18 | – | – | – | – |
| 19 | Comes to us for dinner | “Very good relationship” to son | – | Maybe he’ll come more often to visit |
| 20 | “We don’t see each other often because he lives in Berlin” | Relationship to father “was good before” | – | Maybe my father will be grateful |